This is part of one two about the love that can develop from having siblings along with special needs children. Gena is the mother of 3 children and the oldest has special needs (Gregory). Gregory just graduated from high school. This is part 2 of her story).
So, we went to the hospital and my parents came to pick up Ben, to do something fun. Meanwhile I got Gregory checked into the hospital and comfy/cozy in his room. A couple of days went by with Ben going to his grandparents home to play and me going to the hospital to make sure that Gregory was getting better and that he wasn’t alone for too long. Then I would come home and try to play with Ben. One night Ben asked, “Geggy comin’ home?” I said, “No, not today. Maybe tomorrow,” Ben said, “We gotta have faith!” What? We go to church, but I thought surely Ben was too young to understand what faith meant, he was only three! I asked him how he knew about faith. He said, “Geggy told me! He talks to me in my dweams!” I knew then that Ben and Gregory had a very special bond. We had our third child, our daughter about six months later. She loves Gregory very much and is protective of him, but there is a different bond between Ben and Gregory than there is between Jenna and Gregory. Now that Ben is seventeen, he is going through some really rough times. He is trying to be independent and to fit in with his friends in high school. He has made some choices that he had been taught were wrong. But, there is one person that he goes to, often, his brother, Greg. While he wishes that he wasn’t handicapped, he knows that Gregory is a special and that he will keep all of his secrets. Just recently Gregory graduated from high school and Ben had the opportunity to walk Gregory across the stage. I will never forget the wonderful feeling I got as I watched them, it was the best!! The love that radiated off of the two of them was seen by everybody in that room, everybody at that school knows that Gregory is Ben Calta’s brother and they go up to him and say, “Hi Buddy! I’m Ben’s friend!” Sometimes they’ll get a big smile, sometimes they won’t. But I know that they have been touched by both Ben and Gregory in some way. I was asked once when Gregory and Ben were really young if I would have terminated my pregnancy, knowing now the difficulty of having a handicapped child. Uh…NO WAY!! The blessings outweigh the difficulties! Ben would say the same thing!
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